hint: it’s not what you think

I didn’t set out to be a teen therapist, after all I’m a middle aged divorced woman who never got around to starting a family of her own. But one by one, teens started trickling into my office. …

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It’s a question I hear almost weekly from potential new clients, I’d like to know more about your therapy services, but I’m not sure I need therapy. It’s a valid question. …

It’s the Sweetest Joy

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It happened by accident really. A friend of mine was in her early 20’s and made the comment that she had recently taken a Myers Briggs test and it helped her find the right career path. …

It’s easier then you think


I’ve been writing for Medium for a while now and have discovered a few solid tips that help me achieve success. Here are just a few.

Do — Write about what interests you

I’m a marriage and family therapist intern so some of my best articles have been focused around things that interest me, including how to…

And what you can do instead

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I often have unhappy couples sit on my therapy couch about once a week and the wife will say in frustration…. doesn’t he know the rule, happy wife happy life?

I smile, and nod and then look at the man who stares blankly back at me in defeat.

He assumes…

Help for those who are hurting

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Losses are always hard but some of the most complicated healings I’ve encountered in my therapy practice are helping those families who have endured one or even multiple miscarriages.

To compound the problem, many well meaning friends and loved ones often offer unhelpful and even hurtful remarks.

These remarks are…

Help for when you are feeling low


I see clients every day who are working through their depression, one of the keys to recovery is to actually get some help from a qualified professional.

Sometimes your depression is situational, you’ve been through a breakup, divorce or a family member, friend or pet has died. …

Unlocking Your True Potential

It happened effortlessly, I crafted a magical day and that’s what can be so surprising when we relax into our authentic self.

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I slept in until 10 am, a luxury I had denied myself for far too long, downed two huge glasses of water and then went to the gym…

The Key to Adulting

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I recently went from working full time to part time and fortunately my budget was not impacted in the least! How did I do it? A simple little secret….I acted my wage.

The reality is too many people spend mindlessly or fail to save up for their own dreams.

Two years ago, I decided at age 48 to go back to school and pursue a masters degree…

How to Handle Them


They are everywhere, on the highway, at the grocery store, your pesky co-worker, the teenagers lurking around your house.

You are having a perfectly good day and then they do that annoying little thing that makes you feel as if you may lose your mind.

Maybe they pull their fancy…

Tonja Vallin

Nevada Marriage and Family Therapist Intern

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